WWC – Finding Your Purpose

Episode #83 – Finding Your Purpose

What do you do when you reach your mid-stage of life and you look in the mirror and don’t really know who you are anymore. Anne McKeown is my guest on this week’s episode of Wise Women Conversations and she shares what happened when she went through this. Anne is now a Life Coach who helps other women to find themselves and create successful lives, in ways that are meaningful to them.

We discuss discovering who you are beyond your label as a mother, wife, daughter etc and the endless possibilities that are available to you. Anne shares a simple exercise that you can do to discover who you really are.
Anne is so passionate about the work that she does with women particularly when it comes to finding your purpose in life. If you would like to learn more about the work that Anne does you can visit her website http://annemckeown.com/ or on social media

This is the last episode of the Wise Women Conversations Podcast for 2020.  I will be taking a short break over the holiday period and I will be back in 2021 with some fantastic new conversations.  

Just before I go I would like to remind you that the next round of the free 7 Day Hormone Reset kicks off on Feb 1st, 2021 to register to be a part of this click HERE.  

Have a safe and restful holiday season. Infinite Love and Gratitude 

WWC – How to Navigate Menopause with Ease_Pt 3

Episode #82 – How to Navigate Menopause with Ease_Pt 3

In this week’s episode of the Wise Women Conversations Podcast I am sharing the final Pillar in navigating menopause with ease. This is all about your mindset and beliefs around ageing and menopause. Your belief systems will play a significant role in the way in which you are able to move through this time of life. If you believe that menopause will be a struggle then this is likely how you will experience it.
It is possible to move through this time of life with relatively few symptoms, I know because I did it and many of my clients have as well. Even if you are currently experiencing symptoms such as weight gain, hot flushes, sleep issues plus more by following the 5 steps that I have been sharing you will find that this can be a truly wonderful time of life.

If you would like to take part in the next free 7 Day Hormone Reset you can register for the waitlist HERE 

WWC – Going AF with Mitle Southey

Episode #81 – Going AF with Mitlè Southey

When I first heard the term going AF, I wasn’t sure what it meant until I asked Mitlè Southey to explain it to me. In this episode of Wise Women Conversations we chat about being alcohol free (AF), I am not sure why we need another label but here we are. Mitlè shares her journey with alcohol and how she got to the stage where she considers herself to be AF.

I also don’t drink alcohol, I stopped drinking it 2 years ago because I was sick of being in constant pain. Once I stopped the small amount of alcohol that I was drinking all of my body and muscle pain went away. I don’t really miss the alcohol and I also don’t miss the constant chatter in my head about whether I will drink or not on a night out, Mitlè talks about this in our conversation.

Alcohol has serious impacts on our health and wellbeing, yet many women are reluctant to give it up. Society has taught us that we can turn to alcohol in the good times and the bad, in the happy times and the sad. Listen to this open conversation between Mitlè and me and make up you own mind about your relationship with alcohol.

To learn more about the work Mitlè does visit her website – mitlesouthey.com or follow her on instagram – @mitlesouthey. 

If you are interested in trying some alcohol free drinks click HERE

WWC – How to Navigate Menopause with Ease_Pt 2

Episode #80 – How to Navigate Menopause with Ease_Pt 2

This week’s episode of the Wise Women Conversations Podcast is another solo one from me. I share with you some recordings from the recent 7 Day Hormone reset that I ran.  This week I cover Pillars 3 and 4.  

Pillar 3 is environment and liver health, specifically avoiding toxins that can cause imbalances in your hormone.

Pillar 4 addresses the stress in your life.  Stress is the underlying cause of the majority of symptoms that women experience as they move through menopause.

If you are ready to navigate menopause with ease then why not join the Thrive in Menopause Collective, a monthly membership that has been created to support women as they move through their menopause transition.  As part of the Thrive in Menopause Collective you will learn more about your hormones and the steps that you can take to look and feel great.  To learn more click HERE 

WWC – The Power of Laughter

Episode #77 – The Power of Laughter

This week’s episode of Wise Women Conversations was a fun one when I had Bron Roberts who is a Laughter Yoga Teacher. I had heard of laughter yoga before but I wanted to find out more. Bron shares the years when she lost her laughter and what she did to get it back. Bron also found that laughter got her through some tough times when her Mother was very sick.
There was so much fun and laughter throughout this episode particularly when Bron shares the story of the time she turned “crazy old lady” to get a flight upgrade. Bron has so many fun stories to share and she is proud of her “crazy old lady” status.
You will also learn a quick exercise to help you start laughing, follow along with Bron and I guarantee no matter what mood you are in, you will very quickly feel your mood lift as you experience the healing effect of laughter.

If you want to learn more about Bron you can visit her website www.letslaugh.com.au or find her on LinkedIn as Bron Roberts.

I was praying for menopause

I was praying for menopause

By
Caitlin Grace

Menopause is a word that often stirs fear
in a woman’s heart. Fear of aging. Fear of becoming obsolete and invisible.
Fear of drying up in all aspects of life. A general and pervasive sense of fear
of the unknown in this youth obsessed culture.

The trick is there is no clear time when
you can say “I’m menopausal”. I lost count of the times I went to the doctors
and listed all my symptoms only them to run tests and say. “You are nowhere
near menopause”. Seriously, wtf was that all about? Hormone blood tests are a
very blunt instrument for showing when you are moving into that transition
phase of life, while saliva tests are far more accurate but you won’t get that
at your local GP.

I suffered with heavy bleeding from the
moment I had my tubes tied at 30 and anemia was a constant issue. At one stage
my GP said, “I don’t know how you even get out of bed in the morning”. To be
honest I don’t know how I did it either. By this stage I was in my mid-forties
and praying for menopause to just make it all stop already. No such luck.

Eventually I got a Mirena fitted and my
periods just stopped. Bliss! My iron levels went back up and I finally realised
how much low iron had impacted my life. We have a 300metre driveway and walking
down that would leave me feeling exhausted and ready for a nap, not to mention
gasping for air. I thought I was just fat and unfit. Nope, low iron means low
oxygen so you literally don’t have enough air in your body. After my iron
levels returned to normal I could (and still do!) walk it with ease – no naps
required.

Somewhere into my eighteen months with the
Mirena I was told it had fallen out. I went for a scan and they couldn’t see it
anywhere, so they said “Not to worry. It’s just fallen out” I still had no
periods and thought that I must have passed through into menopause while I had
the Mirena in. Wrong again. In fact the Mirena was still in which I only
discovered when I had a week long period and went to get it checked out as
bleeding after menopause is a danger sign. It turns out the Mirena was still in
there and now they wanted to take it out to see why I had bled.

This is when all my troubles really began.

My doctor told me, again, that I was still
nowhere near menopausal and my uterus was in fact , “quite fluffy”. By this
stage I was close to fifty and had no other symptoms of menopause just (she
laughs) heavy bleeding. Any woman who has experienced heavy bleeding knows how
debilitating and limiting it can be. Their solution, oft repeated, was to do a
hysterectomy as “You are past child bearing so you don’t need it anymore”. To
be clear this was a healthy uterus – no fibroids, no tumours, no cysts, nothing
– she just liked to bleed… a lot.

I am stubborn. I am also deeply attached to
my body parts and I wasn’t about to discard this powerhouse from my body
because she liked to bleed. Instead I went on a journey to find out what I
could do to heal myself. Christiane Northrup’s book “The Wisdom of Menopause”
was a godsend. She says heavy bleeding is leaking life force energy. She asks
the question “Where are you giving away your creativity?” This was a lightbulb
moment and I decided to finally finish writing and self-publish my own book
“The Goddess Guide to Sex, Love and Life”.

It was around this time (2012) that I
started using a yoni egg and I believe this, along with other measures, was
instrumental in getting my heavy bleeding under control. I ditched gluten and
sugar (mostly) and added in more fermented foods including fermented cod liver
oil (yes, it tastes disgusting but totally worth it for the vitamin a, d and k
all of which are crucial to help with heavy bleeding).
I believe the yoni egg has meant that my emotional equilibrium has remained
stable, I have had minimal hot flushes, no night sweats and minimal insomnia
and what I have had has been easily solved with magnesium oil. My periods
finally ended late last year and I feel the transition has been relatively
smoothly. Menopause is one stage of life that we need to really look at all the
ways we can nurture and support our body and I would love it if doctors offered
more than just the “Let’s just take it out” approach when it comes to the
uterus and heavy bleeding. We have much to learn in about the wisdom of the
womb.

About Caitlin

Caitlin Grace is the author of “The Goddess Guide to Sex, Love and Life” a yoni egg coach and a self-love coach. She has been married, divorced and is now married to the love of her life for the past 25 years.

Caitlin’s mission is to help women better understand the importance of their pelvic floor and why it matters. As a yoni egg coach Caitlin helps women understand there is more to the yoni egg practice than maintaining the pelvic floor. It is also a practice in tuning in, becoming more deeply connected to your body and mindful of the way you interact with yourself. Caitlin can be found via her website

This article first appeared in Issue #8 of the Maga Woman Magazine. To read other articles like this one click HERE to subscribe

Courage to Bloom

Courage to Bloom

By Brenda Tsiaousis 

“We cannot become what we need by remaining what we are.” – John C. Maxwell 

We all go through periods off transition. Whether it’s changing a career, starting a new business, becoming an entrepreneur, immigrating to a new country, adjusting to a new life as an empty nester or overcoming trauma.  

No-one tells you what to expect as you transition from one point in life to another. There is no hand book with 10 steps to… insert whatever it is you are currently working through. There isn’t a one size fits all “what works for me will work for you” methodology to transition gracefully through change and there are definitely no two experiences that are the same.  

Nothing could have prepared me for the incredible loss of identity I encountered after immigrating from South Africa to Australia or the confidence crisis I found myself in a few years after starting my business, nor the amount of courage it would take to peel back the layers of years of conditioning as I worked through the questions of;  

Who was I now? More importantly… What do I even want?  

It had been years since I had even reflected on what I truly wanted, not only for myself but also to contribute to the world.  

It takes courage to be totally honest with yourself, to unravel the layers of who you are and to connect with the truest version of yourself. Every woman has a story. A story worth sharing with those who come after us.  

There are parts of our stories that we find easy to tell and parts that are not so easy to share. Freedom lies beyond the hard bits we’re so afraid to share.  

What I have learned during my faith based entrepreneurial journey is that whenever transition and reinvention are involved, it takes courage, commitment and allowing the process to unfold to reveal a new more beautiful you as you step into a brand new and often unknown season. 

One of the myths I would like to bust is the concept of courage being overtly over the top, loud, extra brave… the kind of bungee jumping courageous or kite surfing brave.  

I don’t deny the fact that it takes loud courage to do all of these things but let’s consider the quiet kind of courage for a moment. The courage that whispers quietly to your soul.  

The small voice that say’s – “you’ve got this” “you can”, “just one small step”, “keep going.”  

The quiet prompting to pick up the phone, to call someone who hurt you and to say sorry, the inner prickle of doing something that may result in rejection but doing it anyway.  

For a person to fully embrace who they are becoming, I have found the courage to bloom is often preceded by the courage to surrender. 

All that no longer serves, any pre-conceived ideas of who we are meant to be, the hurts, past failures and any unhealthy beliefs we may be holding on to that could derail us from; becoming the very best version of ourselves, starting a new business, traveling to foreign countries or speaking on stages. 

There are four steps that I believe aid us in having the courage to bloom.  

These are;   

Clarity  ~ around your vision, what you really want for your life and for those around you. We often know exactly what it is that we do not want but not as much what we do want. Now is the perfect opportunity to dream out loud, to scribble your way through a note pad noting all the things you dreamt of doing but haven’t yet, whatever the reason.  

An activity I love to do with my clients who run their own businesses or those who are actively stepping into a new season is to write out their vision for each area of their life. Many are surprised to find that they struggle initially but as they allow themselves to dream the easier it becomes.  Writing down your vision provides a springboard from which to launch from.  

Confidence ~ In yourself, your capabilities, your strengths, and your experiences. These often form part of your story and hold the lessons or gifts you can share with others. Confidence is derived from knowing and aligning with our core values, acknowledging our fears and reframing our beliefs if necessary.  

Two thirds of businesses today are started by woman, with 85% of all purchasing decision made by them. These are incredible statistics which are set to grow as more woman realise the benefits of starting and growing their businesses from home while caring for family and loved ones. 

As amazing as these statistics are, the biggest challenge still facing many woman, even those in corporate positions is the lack of confidence.  

Certainty ~ Who are you deep down, at the centre of your being? Being certain of who you are at your core is key to confidence and courage. This was the one question I certainly mulled over when I felt like I had lost my identity after moving to Australia. Certainty is not the same as confidence. We can be outwardly confident and inwardly uncertain. If you’re an entrepreneur certainty spills over to knowing who work with, your business model, distribution channels and what you offer.  

Commitment ~ Commit to yourself fully. Commit to your goals. Set yourself a goal and focus on achieving it. There will be days when you may feel tempted to give up. When this happens consider the phrase “courage over comfort” You are so worth it.  

Take a deep breathe and listen to the quiet voice of courage nudging you to take action. It is in taking action that fear will dissipate and courage will rise.  

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. Nelson Mandela 

As women we have so much to give; a wealth of experience, hearts open wide to support and encourage others, start new businesses, step in to new careers, create secondary income streams, travel the world, share a message that will transform lives, make an impact and leave a legacy for those who follow behind us.  

Once you allow yourself to surrender to what is, you will make way for courage to bloom. You will finally be able to show up in your business with warmth, authenticity and certainty. It’s from this place that your life and business will thrive. 

Web links  

Website : www.BrendaTsiaousis.com  

Facebook Page : www.facebook.com/brendatsiaousis 

BIO :  

Brenda Tsiaousis

Business success mentor, courage Igniter and confidante, Brenda supports passionate, impact driven women over 40 to have the confidence and courage to market their business and create a unique brand by combining a success mindset with timeless strategy fuelled by faith.  

She is passionate about supporting women, addressing crucial missing components in life and business that often stop them from shining bright, sharing their message and living more aligned lives. Brenda is #1 best selling author of Courage To Bloom.  

This article first appeared in Issue #6 of the Maga Woman Magazine. To read more articles like this click HERE to subscribe.

Self Love….is it another buzz word?

Self Love….is it another buzz word?

Written by Keri Norley 

SELF LOVE… Is it another “BUZZ” word?  Is it a load of rubbish?  Do you reach the holy grail?  I mean for real… is it all it’s cracked up to be?   

This concept of self-love is everywhere these days.  And lots of people are preaching it.  The question is… do they believe it to truly be possible?  Do you believe it?  Have you ever experienced it? 

So what is it?  Self- love?  

It is not love driven by ego.   

It is awareness of self.  It is love for all parts of self… the beautiful and the ugly.  It’s awareness that you are capable of the worst and also the best… and still loving you.  It’s loving your body, no matter the size.  It’s looking after and nurturing all levels of yourself… mind, body and spirit… 

In my opinion… self-love is not a “buzz” word… but it can be… if you take it for it’s superficial experience.  Saying you love yourself doesn’t make it the end of the journey.  Generally speaking… it’s only the beginning. For many of you reading this, even doing that will bring tears to your eyes… if you look yourself in the eyes, in your soul and say it and truly mean it…  

So what are 5 crucial pieces that are an absolute must in order to fall in love with yourself… deeper and deeper in love?  

  1. Be willing to spend time with yourself. 
  2. Have people around you to hold you to a higher standard.  Fire the rest.
  3. Look at your mindset, the stories you are telling yourself, the stories that others told you and you believed… are they true?  What do you want to think instead and STICK WITH IT.
  4. Be courageous.  Have the deep conversations with people when it scares you.  Be willing to go ALL IN to living an aligned life.  Don’t go halfway.
  5. Forgiveness.  Forgive yourself first.  Forgive others who you feel have hurt you.  Realise… your responsibility in the situation.  Forgive yourself again.

 REPEAT.   

And when you do these things… when you start to love time with yourself.  When you are saying kind things to yourself… when you have the courage to go all in.  When you stop worrying and truly surrender… when you forgive… when you do all this and more…  

Something happens within.   

A peace begins to take over.  A peace that was not there before.   

Your energy shifts.  It goes somewhere you didn’t know existed.  Somewhere you couldn’t go while you were beating yourself up, shaming yourself, loathing on you… thinking you were completely incompetent and inadequate… feeling unworthy and not good enough… in that place… you couldn’t, you wouldn’t allow yourself to vibrate at the level of love.  You couldn’t receive it.   

This feeling.  The feeling of vibing high, joy, boundless love and freedom and abundance… it’s beyond words.  It’s to be felt.  And you will experience it different to me… but I can promise you… The feeling of infinite love and source energy streaming through, in the times when you allow it to… it’s worth every challenging part of the journey to get there.  

So now… you get to decide… are you ready to completely and fully let go?  To totally surrender to that which is guiding you…  

If not… that’s all good.  We are all somewhere on the path… and knowing your truth around it is the first step.  Do you want to love yourself?  Do you want to go deeper into this path?  If so… what are you willing to do to take the next step? 

And… if you are already on this path… and you are falling deeper and deeper in love with you.. congratulations… it’s a never ending, lifetime journey that will take the wildest twists and turns and it’s this path that will bring you to your deepest alignment to your soul’s purpose.  And it’s this path that will have you healing yourself, those around you and the planet.   

I invite you… to be willing to go further, deeper… on your path of love.  It will change your life… every aspect of it.   

Keri Norley

Written by Keri Norley, “The Manifesting Queen” and creator of Business Manifestors Club and the Manifesting Mindset Bootcamp loves to help you create an epic life on your terms.  She is passionate about ALL things manifesting and helping you live your life in complete alignment so that things show up with ease.  She loves helping you to work through your mindset and uncover the blocks that are holding you back from being the person who gets to live your dreams.  She loves helping you follow the signs to walk on your own path… to follow your heart and your soul’s purpose and alignment and to ultimately manifest all your deepest desires.   

You can get some fun free trainings that are honestly deep and incredible content in this no FLUFF zone… Click HERE

This article first appeared in Issue #5 of the Maga Woman Magazine. To read more articles like this subscribe HERE

Dance Yourself Awake

Dance Yourself Awake

Written by Natalie Southgate

Do you remember a time when you completely let loose on the dance floor? Maybe it was at a night-club, or at a party, or even when you were just cranking up the stereo in your own lounge-room. You closed your eyes and let the rhythms and beats ripple through you. Remember the joy, the bliss, and the freedom of that feeling?

As we get older, as well as not stepping out on the dance floor as much (or ever!), we may also find that we’re not stepping fully into our own lives. It’s easy to find ourselves sleepwalking through life. It can feel like we’re just going through the motions of getting through the day. It’s easy to feel tired, jaded, and uninspired. The days and weeks, and even years, roll on by and yet we may only be semi-conscious of the choices we are making and the lives we are creating.

Many of us are playing lots of roles in our lives (wife, mother, friend, daughter, carer, breadwinner etc) and have put the needs of others ahead of our own for so long that we’ve literally lost touch with who we really are. And yet … from somewhere deep within, there may be a voice that is beginning to cry out: “Is there more to life? Who am I really? What am I here for?”

It feels to me that this deep soul-stirring seems to intensify at mid-life. That inner voice crying inside seems to get louder, and the external triggers that force us to grow get bigger. Some people call this having a mid-life crisis, but I really believe that it is a calling home to our true, authentic self. Our soul wants to dance again!

Twenty years ago, my various studies and passions (one of which was letting loose on the dance floor) led me to create Chakradance, a dynamic moving meditation practice. Since then I have shared it with thousands of women who have had that inner yearning to live their lives more deeply, authentically, and with more creativity, passion and purpose.

In Chakradance, we dance to specific music that has been composed to resonate with each of the seven chakras. As you dance your chakras you will begin to notice changes in your body and in your life. You might find yourself releasing tension you’ve been holding onto for years, and gaining energy for the things that you want to do in your life. Your dance may re-ignite your passion. You may find you have more insights into how to handle difficult situations in your life. You might find more connection in your relationships. You may just feel a lot more relaxed and free, and wake up each morning looking forward to the day ahead. Chakradance helps us to free up our natural energy flows and helps us feel more vibrant, more passionate, more alive.

Here is a quick overview of each dance

Base chakra

This dance connects us to our primal, instinctual energy. It helps us to reclaim the wild, animal-like part of us and deepens our connection to the earth. We may find ourselves emphasizing movements of our legs and feet in this tribal, raw, and primitive dance.

Sacral chakra

Dancing the sacral chakra deepens our connection with the sacred feminine. Like water, our feelings and sensuality flow in this chakra. Fluid, sensual movements of our hips and belly can heighten our sense of pleasure and passion.

Solar plexus chakra

As we dance the solar plexus chakra we express our innate masculine energy. This fiery energy fuels our dance, helping us to feel confident and strong. We may find ourselves doing dynamic martial-arts type movements as we rediscover our own warrior power.

Heart chakra

We use our breath to expand our chest and lift up into the airy dance of the heart chakra. This soft and gentle dance opens us up to love, kindness and compassion – for others, but also for ourselves. This dance, which may call us to whirl and soar, can help us open ourselves up to the lightness and joy within us.

Throat chakra

The throat chakra helps us to express our authentic truth. This dance is a mantra dance, where we weave together our voice and movements. The vibrations of the sounds we create pulse through our bodies, intensifying our self-expression and creativity. We become moving sound.

Third eye chakra

As we surrender into a trance-dance, we may find ourselves making hypnotic and repetitive movements. We may also open ourselves up to visions, insights and higher guidance. This dance heightens our perceptions and helps us see the bigger picture.

Crown chakra

The dance of the crown chakra feels like a dancing prayer. We may find ourselves raising our arms toward the sky to receive the universal love, grace and wisdom. This is the dance of our soul.

When Chakradance is used as a regular practice, it transforms your life. It wakes you from your slumber and re-ignites all that exists within you. Is your soul calling you back to the dancefloor?

Natalie Southgate creator of Chakradance

Chakradance is offered in live classes all over the world. There are over 400 fully trained and accredited Chakradance Facilitators now, running classes in over 40 countries. Click here to see if there’s a facilitator running classes near you.

This article first appeared in the Maga Woman Magazine, a lifestyle magazine for women over 45. Click HERE to subscribe and to get access to more great articles.

Mindset of Ageing

Mindset of Ageing

By Lynda Dyer

Why does a simple attitude adjustment suspend Ageing?

Why do some people become well centenarians while others die young?

Does Age affect our wellness or wellness affect our age?

All great questions and ones I wanted to explore to truly understand the ageing process.

Let me share with you some of my findings that I wrote about in my International Best Selling Book ‘Age is an Attitude’ in 2017.

“Cultural Beliefs effect our immune system and thus our health and ageing process”, says Dr Mario Martinez who is a clinical neuropsychologist and developed the Bio cognitive Science Institute in 1998. He wrote the ‘Mind Body Code’ by studying over 400 centenarians. From his research he believes that longevity is learned and not inherited. This study puts a whole new slant on the ‘Nature/Nurture’ controversy and I think it has great credibility.

His bio cognitive science is based on research that demonstrates how thoughts and their biological expression co-emerge within a cultural history. I find this fascinating as I believe our thoughts are so powerful. I have been teaching this for many years.

You have to ask yourself why can some people live well past 100 without seeing a doctor? Why can some people live well past 100 when both their parents died young? Why can some people reverse incurable diseases, like I did, while others hold onto childhood diseases despite years of treatment and therapy?

Dr Mario Martinez, on the 180 Nutrition Show with Guy Lawrence and Stu Cook talks about “The Secret of Living Beyond 100 years old”. He gave some great examples for us to get this concept of the cultural thinking influencing our health and thus our ageing process. This is the example.

“Let’s say your culture has a propensity in the immune system issue like Lupus or Cancer. Research has shown that that culture generally teaches you to be subservient with authority”. How many of you have felt subservient with authority growing up? I know I did. I had a big issue with ‘people in charge’. I think many of us have felt this at some time.

Dr Mario Martinez then says “Some of the characteristics for Cancer and Immune Disorders are:

  • Unassertiveness
  • Inability to set limits
  • Fear of the world and not being liked enough
  • Inability to reduce fear which causes a low immunity and a low ability to produce the natural killer (NK) cells that can kill the pre cancer cells.

He goes on to say that “The family quite often fosters the illness teaching us helplessness and subservience”. So we teach ourselves to get sick and remain sick. We should never blame ourselves because we don’t do this consciously. If you can learn to get sick you can learn to trigger the causes of health you inherited.

I believe this because I did it. I felt subservient around authority. I created an auto immune disease.

I know from my teachings that we have a Mind and Body Connection. What Dr Mario Martinez has added is that this Mind Body Connection is influenced by our culture. So our perception of who we are and why we do what we do is cultural. In fact we are influenced by cultural beliefs from the day we are born. I believe Bob Proctor would call this ‘Programming’. In each culture our beliefs are different. We are influenced by what we share or fear even at the pre-birth stage.

As an NLP Coach and Trainer I know this from many processes that we can do with people to take them back to a time where they felt that fear or shame for example. The actual meaning of the words is different in each culture. For example, Dr Mario Martinez says that “Shame and Honour may mean different things in different cultures”. He goes on to say that “Shaming causes inflammation of the immune system by reducing imunoglukans”. Were you ever told that you did not do well at school or sport? This is one way of shaming. Each culture can shame in different ways. Some cultures shame the whole group. For example some older people feel not treated well as a group. Women in some cultures are shamed to keep them feeling subservient.

The problem with shaming, or any other negative word is that our subconscious mind is symbolic so it refers to words as symbols. “These symbols can create a bio cognitive set of responses that can influence our immune system. Therefore illnesses and ageing are learnt and the causes of health are inherited” says Dr Mario Martinez.

He goes on to say that “We are basically born healthy. There are very few chromosomal errors. In the process, however of dealing with the world, we learn to respond in a dysfunctional way. We have a pre-disposition in our DNA to overcome illnesses, through our resilience, that allows us to get well. We become ill from factors we have learnt. We have a tremendous ability to be well and overcome many illnesses and challenges”. I know this from practical experience.

So if .001% is inherited illnesses, why we age must have a lot less to do with our genetics and a lot more to do with our environment or culture. Dr Mario Martinez says “We don’t inherit illness. We actually inherit a propensity for illness. What we do learn is how to be hyper alarmed.” So we live in a constant stress state without realising it.

So let’s have a look at an example of why he says this. “Let’s say you are raised by abusive parents, where you are constantly mistreated. That is not just psychological damage. That creates problems with the immune system and endocrine system and nerves. These systems are learning to get sick and so they secrete chemicals, stress and cortisol steroids, into our immune and endocrine system which lose their ability to assist us. So all our systems, nerve, immune, endocrine, and cognitive are learning stress. The medical system then offers us a tablet for that which enforcers the illness belief.

We don’t inherit illnesses. We inherit the propensity for the expression of genes based on our environment, culture and beliefs”.

Ellen Langer, a Professor in Social Psychology from Harvard University did a study on working women in a hotel. The study was to demonstrate ‘How Context Affects your Ageing Process’. So she split the group of hotel workers into two groups;

  1. Group 1 were all told that what they do in the hotel must be hard work and I’m sure you must get tired at the end of the day”. In NLP we call this an ‘embedded command to the mind’ because it is so suggestive.
  2. Group 2 were told “Do you know that the work you do is similar to aerobics, bending and stretching, like going to a gym and you must be burning lots of calories”. So these workers also had embedded commands of a whole different nature given to them. They were given attributes that the work they were doing attributed to their fitness and had aerobic consequences.

So they then looked at both groups 6 weeks later:

  1. Group 1 got worse
  2. Group 2 allowed the attributions of aerobic exercising while working to change their mindset and attitude about their work and they made significant changes. They dropped their cholesterol, weight and blood pressure significantly, just from thinking about their work differently. They allowed the attributions to change their attitude about their work and they had a significant mind body change.

I actually did this exercise with my son. He was working in a ‘Boost Juice’ bar and he was not happy with the amount of work he had to do for the amount of pay. So I said to him “why don’t you go into your work tomorrow and pretend you own the business and work as if it is your business”. To do that he would have to change his mindset and attitude about his work and his role in the job.

Well the outcome not only surprised the people at his work, it also surprised him and me. He was told “you can’t change that quickly”. His comment was “yes you can because I just did”. He was then asked to become the assistant manager in four days. He not only did this at this casual job, he did it at his next job in a music store with the same results. He now knew that he was in control of his outcomes every day and that his attitude was very much connected to his aptitude.

In NLP, we believe that Attitude is very much attributed to Aptitude. The effort you put into anything in your life will be governed by your attitude, thoughts and beliefs around that task. Attitude is the way we decide to do our behaviour from the way our beliefs and values are.  So our behaviour is a great indicator of our mindset and attitude. If we want to make change we may like to check our willingness to change our mindset and thus our attitude first.

So Can The Power of Thought Stop You Aging?

“Professor Ellen Langer carried out another experiment in 1979 to find if changing thought patterns could slow ageing” according to the BBC News. The full story of this experiment was hidden until 2010 so it’s just being realised now.

Here is the link to the full story http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/magazine/8498233.stm

The most important point here is that thoughts can actually change the chemistry in the brain. We can make the choice to grow older in a healthy happy way or not. To become a well centenarian is a choice.

So let’s look at what Dr Mario Martinez found as the common denominators for longevity according to his research on over 400 centenarians.

  • They all intuitively express the causes of their wellness
  • They were all assertive, celebrated life and others
  • They had what has been called righteous anger which is good for letting off steam
  • They all set their own limits. They were happy to help others but only to a point.
  • They ate mostly vegetarian or Mediterranean diets until they were ¾ full
  • They don’t manipulate. They acknowledge that both they and you were worthy. This is healthy for the immune system. If we don’t feel worthy and acknowledge it then how can we project ourselves. Our culture quite often teaches us to be humble and helpless.
  • They exercised regularly by walking, riding bikes and dancing
  • They had a purpose every day. Whatever they did (even if it was to mind the great grand- kids) they did it with the best attitude.

The important point here is that cultural anthropology and neuroscience back this information up. So if ‘SHAME’ is the underlying reason behind your immune system not allowing you to have the longevity that you want then you can STOP and DECIDE to find times in your life when you felt HONOUR because honour is the healer for shame. Honour becomes an anti-inflammatory component. So what may be a great exercise for you to do is to write about all the times you felt honoured in your life. You may be surprised at how far you can go back. By focusing on your worth, and a mindset of your purpose, your body feels well and you age well.

Lynda

Lynda Dyer Msc, Mind Power Global

Certified NLP Trainer & Master Trainer of Matrix Therapies

International Best Selling Author of 8 books Including ‘Make it Happen Now’, ‘Good Grief Book’, ‘Healing your Immune System’ and ‘Create Confident Kids’.

You can connect with Lynda at http://mindpowerglobal.com.au/

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